On this page you will find the:
• Spiritual Companions Guidelines
• Spiritual Companions Professional Guidelines
• Spiritual Companions Agreement

Spiritual Companions Guidelines

As best we can Spiritual Companions practise the following guidelines:


  •  Regularly connect with and experience the wonder and energy of existence

Core Skills

  • Are grounded and centred in our bodies; embodied and in hara
  • Can pause, still at will and become mindfully present
  • Awareness of the subtle sensations of connection
  • Witness with compassion, in silence when appropriate


  • Self-reflect and manage our behaviour, health and development with compassion, love and wisdom
  • Are emotionally literate and transparent about our own processes
  • Are in ongoing relationships and groups of peer support, actively seeking and welcoming feedback from others
  • Understand that there are psychological challenges that occur as the everyday self emerges into spiritual consciousness
  • Can take responsibility, apologise, forgive and receive forgiveness
  • Appreciate that all life is in a continual process of emergence and are comfortable with unknowing
  • Possess an appropriate sense of humour


  • Enable safe and sacred space
  • Provide a non-intrusive, welcoming, healing and holding presence
  • Listen with care and enable people to clarify and own their own psycho-spiritual development
  • Can assert clear boundaries and intervene, when appropriate, to stop abuse
  • Celebrate diversity and welcome the fact that there are many different paths of spiritual development
  • Are engaged citizens, actively dedicated to social and ecological health and honouring the spirit in all beings
  • Are aware of local resources
  • Know our personal and professional limitations and are able to refer appropriately


Spiritual Companions Professional Guidelines

  • Can stay in hara, extend my aura and consistently and patiently hold a difficult situation with an open heart and generous disposition.
  • Compassionately understand and empathise with people’s resistance and defensiveness when they are faced with change and discomfort.
  • Appreciate and accept that when in the role of facilitator or mentor that I may become the target of people’s projections.
  • Gracefully accept all irritations, criticisms and hurts as useful stimulations to my personal spiritual growth.
  • Know when it is appropriate to pray for grace, support and guidance, and be open to receiving and acknowledging it.
  • Stay present to people and not abandon them if and when the relationship and communications become tense and difficult.
  • Can enquire appropriately enabling people to feel safe, reassured and able to disclose.

The Spiritual Companions Agreement

I am a Benevolent Presence who Hears Your Story
I will reassure and support you through careful listening, enquiry and responses, seeking fully to understand your personal story and circumstances.

I May Remind You that Life is a Spiritual Journey
When appropriate, I may have a conversation with you exploring that, whatever your circumstances, you are on a life-long journey of spiritual and personal development, developing your heart and consciousness.

And I May Help You Develop Your Spiritual Practice
When appropriate, I may help you explore the skills, practices and understandings that will support you in self-managing your spiritual and personal journey with mature autonomy.

“Working through the Guidelines and reflecting on my childhood has not been easy.  I feel very proud of myself for completing it and I know it has been of great benefit to me. The relationship with my children and husband has developed to a different level, thank you and the other Spiritual Companions for designing these exercises.”
Izzy Valenti, social work and healthcare trainer