On this page you will find the:
• Spiritual Companions Guidelines
• Spiritual Companions Professional Guidelines
• Spiritual Companions Agreement
Spiritual Companions Guidelines
As best we can Spiritual Companions practise the following guidelines:
- Regularly connect with and experience the wonder and energy of existence
- Are grounded and centred in our bodies; embodied and in hara
- Can pause, still at will and become mindfully present
- Awareness of the subtle sensations of connection
- Witness with compassion, in silence when appropriate
- Self-reflect and manage our behaviour, health and development with compassion, love and wisdom
- Are emotionally literate and transparent about our own processes
- Are in ongoing relationships and groups of peer support, actively seeking and welcoming feedback from others
- Understand that there are psychological challenges that occur as the everyday self emerges into spiritual consciousness
- Can take responsibility, apologise, forgive and receive forgiveness
- Appreciate that all life is in a continual process of emergence and are comfortable with unknowing
- Possess an appropriate sense of humour
- Enable safe and sacred space
- Provide a non-intrusive, welcoming, healing and holding presence
- Listen with care and enable people to clarify and own their own psycho-spiritual development
- Can assert clear boundaries and intervene, when appropriate, to stop abuse
- Celebrate diversity and welcome the fact that there are many different paths of spiritual development
- Are engaged citizens, actively dedicated to social and ecological health and honouring the spirit in all beings
- Are aware of local resources
- Know our personal and professional limitations and are able to refer appropriately
Spiritual Companions Professional Guidelines
- Can stay in hara, extend my aura and consistently and patiently hold a difficult situation with an open heart and generous disposition.
- Compassionately understand and empathise with people’s resistance and defensiveness when they are faced with change and discomfort.
- Appreciate and accept that when in the role of facilitator or mentor that I may become the target of people’s projections.
- Gracefully accept all irritations, criticisms and hurts as useful stimulations to my personal spiritual growth.
- Know when it is appropriate to pray for grace, support and guidance, and be open to receiving and acknowledging it.
- Stay present to people and not abandon them if and when the relationship and communications become tense and difficult.
- Can enquire appropriately enabling people to feel safe, reassured and able to disclose.
The Spiritual Companions Agreement
I am a Benevolent Presence who Hears Your Story
I will reassure and support you through careful listening, enquiry and responses, seeking fully to understand your personal story and circumstances.
I May Remind You that Life is a Spiritual Journey
When appropriate, I may have a conversation with you exploring that, whatever your circumstances, you are on a life-long journey of spiritual and personal development, developing your heart and consciousness.
And I May Help You Develop Your Spiritual Practice
When appropriate, I may help you explore the skills, practices and understandings that will support you in self-managing your spiritual and personal journey with mature autonomy.
“Working through the Guidelines and reflecting on my childhood has not been easy. I feel very proud of myself for completing it and I know it has been of great benefit to me. The relationship with my children and husband has developed to a different level, thank you and the other Spiritual Companions for designing these exercises.”
Izzy Valenti, social work and healthcare trainer